Listen, we all want to be likable. We all want to be loved. We want to be the star of the party, but can be hard for us sometimes to be that person. I know when you’re looking at me, you’re like, ah, man, this guy’s got it. He is awesome. He is funny, he is likable, he is everything.

Well, lemme tell you, I was not always like this. I was a nerd in school. Took me time and effort to be a likable person. So I give you six tips I’m gonna recommend today to improve your charisma, make you feel good, and make you more of a likable person. And anyone can do this, I’m telling you cuz if I can do it, I know that you can. And these tips were adapted from a famous book, how To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Men. That is a bomb title for a book. Number one, be genuinely interested in the other person. Yes, actually enjoy talking to the other person. Listen, we all love it when people are interested in us.

And you need to be interested in the other person that you’re talking to. Understand where they’re coming from. What are their motivations? What are their interests? What do they enjoy doing? Actually take the time to listen to what they have to say and be interested in what they have to say. Anyone can be interesting. You have to dig deep, find out what’s interesting about them and learn from that.

Number two, smile. It’s so easy to forget. Just a simple thing as smiling can help to introduce doors and to make people feel comfortable. In fact, one of the things I always do whenever I’m meeting somebody new or going to the office or meeting a new patient, as I walk in smiling Now, I’ll tell you, it helps to brighten up the room.

Something as simple as smiling when you see somebody is going to help bring out pleasant emotions for you and for them. Number three, remember that person’s name is the sweetest thing that can come outta your mouth. People love to hear their names. People love to understand that you remember who they are. Make an effort to remember someone’s name. Sometimes you have to use kinda weird analogies or weird images in your head to remember someone’s name.

Do what you can. Remember their name. Repeat their name again to their face. And if you forget, don’t be bashed. We’ll say, I’m sorry, I forgot your name. I want to remember it. Can you repeat it? Their name is what they want you to remember and to say. Number four, be a good listener. Encourage them to talk more.

Use silence as a way for them to talk more about what they wanna talk about. It works and it’s effective. Number five, talk in terms of their interests. If they have an interest in tennis talk in terms of that. If they have a particular job, talk in terms of that. If they have something that they want to talk about that interests them, talk in terms of that talk, in terms of others’ interests to make them more interested in you, but also have that engagement with them. Now. Lastly, make that other person feel important sincerely. Because for them they are the most important person in their life. Their life revolves around them and help out with them. Make them feel important. Make them feel listened to, remember their name. This is going to help out with making them feel important and do it sincerely. Use these six tips in any social situation. And I will tell you, you’ll come off as being moral likable.